Wednesday, 27 July 2011

sunny yellows and a rant

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I was supposed to wear this to a party while in Bonn a week or so ago, but after going out to take these pictures and have a drink, we got lazy and it turned into a drinking-white-wine-while-chatting-at-home evening instead. I remember Albert telling me to "cheer up" while we took them... not sure what I was so grimacey about at the time, but probably I had an audience or something!

Right, I feel the need to unload on my latest bloggy rant. I know we're supposed to be all sweetness and light in our online personas, but what can I say, I'm actually the grinch. So, in no particular order, things that are driving me crazy:

1. The overuse of the word "babe." As in "my friends/fellow bloggers/ are total babes." Now, maybe it's just me, but "babe" to me has kind of a raunchy sixties, Brigitte Bardot kind of connotation. I know everyone loves Brigitte Bardot at the moment, but really, have we not advanced? Must we still call people "babes" to indicate their value? I don't know about you, but I don't think of my friends as babes. Some are good looking and some aren't, but I'd actually think there was a problem if all my friends were of the sex-kitten variety. Some are welcome of course.

2. Naked chicks being reblogged ad nauseum on tumblr. Yeah yeah, the female form is beautiful. So why are most of these reblogs waifish females who look like they skipped six meals before slipping on a pair of white cotton undies and lying topless in a field fingering flowers? Or there are the ironic, tongue-in-cheek reblogs of snippets of naughty vintage films...As with babes, really...is this really what we consider "inspirational?"

3. "It's so unbelievably horrible what happened in Norway." It is, of course, completely horrible. Especially given the troubling connection to the rise of extreme right-wing sentiments in Europe in recent years. But hey, there's also a famine going on in Somalia, huh? Affecting something like 30% of the population? I haven't heard a peep about that on the blogosphere yet. Why do we only feel compelled to comment upon things that happen to people who remind us of ourselves?

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Jiving my nasty, gloomy, un-babe self down the street... ; )

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Photos by Albert

vintage deadstock dress from ebay and vintage hand-me-down clutch, Fly London shoes

59 comments:

Xavi said...

I cannot most agree with you. Some comment (in my poor English):
1. This is Male chauvinism. I've found this translatios of the spanish word "machista".
2. Sometimes photos are manipulated with photoshop.
3. A real problem in Europe. In the last century, a similar situation finished in a war.

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

Xavi: If men call women babes, it's male chauvinism. If women call women babes, it's something else. Annoying, in my opinion!

Faff said...

Love the dress! Yeah the 'babe' thing is not cool - I once heard a 10ish year old girl in a shop call her baby brother 'babe' and it made me cringe, the word has annoyed me ever since! :)

Annebeth said...

Oh I am guilty of the first and third! :-D I guess I love calling my friends babes because most of them don't do themselves enough justice. I think they are beautiful women (inside and out and because of their inside coming out) and I want to credit them for it because I know they read my blog. I constantly call them beautiful in real life too, but I just REALLY think they are beautiful! Of course they also know I find them great personalities, I'm quite picky with friends and if they don't have a personality I love, I wouldn't be their friend or call them babe. Also, when I post pics of my friends online, it's only normal I comment on their appearance. I don't know whether they'd appreciate it if I'd talk about all of their qualities because I guess that's a bit personal? Like I have a friend that does classical singing, horseback riding and is completely intelligent too, but if I put all of that up it turns into a slimy text rather than just a casual 'btw my friend is a total babe' which for me encompasses all of their qualities: looks and personality.

2: yeah tumblr has its own aesthetic and sense of humor. I guess it's mostly like that because like 90% of tumblrers are 16 year old girls with a tendency for eating disorders. But it depends on who you follow to, I follow lots of vintage picture tumblrs and feminist tumblrs and they post more diversity in body shapes :D

About Norway: I don't think we have to feel guilty for not giving every tragedy equal attention. It's completely normal that you feel more moved by a tragedy you can relate to, people are just inherently self-centered. You could blame the media for not giving everything equal attention, but not the people.

Annebeth said...

also, when I refer to bloggers as total babes, it's usually because I actually find them total babes and have a bit of a girlcrush on them. Most of the time they are not the britney spears babe variety but they have a look that doesn't fit the beauty ideal for 100%, but I still have an infatuation-like feel when I look at their pictures. Don't know how I could describe them in any other way than babes! :-D maybe it's different because english is not my first language, but in the right context I don't feel anything is wrong with the word really.

The Daily Fashionista said...

I for one hadn't heard about the famine in Somalia. I haven't heard anything about it in the news, and I don't go seeking out depressing topics in the media. But I do wonder why people don't get as upset about bombings in the middle east as they do in Norway. Innocent people are killed in extremist killings everyday all over the world. I know for myself I don't have enough energy in my body to blog about it all, so I just leave it out. Or I might make a nod to it, in vague terms.
As for naked chicks, I'm jaded by tumblrs. I don't find them inspirational at all. It's all a popularity contest to see how can get the most pics tumblred (or whatever you say).

So yeah, I'm right there with ya.

Shybiker said...

Heartily agree on all three points. I better not get started or I'll write too long a comment... let's just say we agree.

The dress is really cute. Wear it again when you're in a better mood.

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

@ Annebeth: Hmm, based on what you say I'd say the word babe has different connotations for us. I don't think you have any issue with the English language, so perhaps you're taking the word in the spirit in which it's meant by the blogging community these days, while I'm an old fart, and am having my mother's reaction. ; )

Oh, didn't mean this post to read as a criticism of you, btw (although it's true you do these things) hehe.

I'll agree to disagree on Norway. I find it appalling that everyone's so upset about Norway and Japan and the rest of the world may be literally falling apart but nobody notices because they're not white.

Carrie said...

1. Love the dress (the yellow underneath is such a fun surprise!)

2. I hate {HATE} being called "babe". Hubby knows that and when he really wants to get my goat, he does it just to get a reaction (but never in front of other people, which I appreciate). Babe brings to mind two things for me, a woman who is thought of as a sex object, or a pig who suddenly becomes famous. Take your pick.

3. I don't know about tumblr, but I'm sick and tired of seeing naked photos of women (AND men) on Pinterest. Love Pinterest and have gotten some great ideas/recipes off of there. But honestly, I don't feel like sifting through the pictures (and the pins that are nothing but cuss words - why?!) to get to the good stuff. Does that make me a grouchy old lady??

Roxanne said...

hi miss emily, i love your blog! your LBD is the cutest, i love the details ;)

btw- am a new follower here, I would love if you could also come visit and follow mine.. thanks dear ;)

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Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

@Daily Fashionista: my tumblr is mainly just for myself,but I see what you mean. There's a lot of pointless reblogging. I just loathe all the naked girls. ; )

@Shybiker: I will! I always seem to ruin some good posts with my bad-tempered rumblings!

Carrie said...

P.S. Norway was horrible, so was Japan, but having lived around the world in various African countries and Indonesia, horrific events happen everywhere that never get media time. But it's not about the media covering it, it's about us taking a stand to do something. To help. To make the issues known. And on the positive side, there are a lot of unsung heros over there doing a lot of humanitarian work to help - and they never get any press time, they are just there to do their job.

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

@Carrie: My pick between those two would be Babe the pig!

Nah, another thing I don't get on tumblr is why everything is called "fuckyeahalexachung" or similar.. I have no problem with swearing, but it should at least be about something...

Judy C said...

We seem to have devolved into a world where the cute saying is good. I lost it when people were saying "sweet" and "hot" and "you know". I remember some words from the 50's and 60's. It's been going on a while and that's all part of an effort to fit into a group. And as for giving the Norway group attention. How can you not feel sad for the families of the children who died? Just as I picture in my mind the mothers who have lost their children to famine. But right now the suddenness of the Norway deaths has caused the news to talk about that. Lets not be afraid to send loving thoughts to anyone we hear about who needs them.

Annebeth said...

I understand your problem with the whole norway issue and I too find it disturbing that we seem to focus on people that have our skincolor, however, I can't help but feel this way. I am not a racist, but really feeling for Africa's famine would almost be hypocritical and self righteous for me because I just don't feel it as much...

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

Maybe it's my excessive Canadian guilt, but I look on the Somalia thing not so much as a "I feel the pain of hungry Africans" thing, but more "I'm so ashamed to be part of the problem that makes the world so unequal and fucked up" point of view.

Raquel said...

I always love the thought you raise with most of your posts, but first I have to comment on how gorgeous you look here! I love that dress and your hairdo is quite amazing. Did you use something like bumpits or is it just backcombing? Man i am so bad with my hair haha.

Ok, you're not the grinch!! I agree with you on most! First I don't think as the word babe the same thing you do, I usually give it a bit of a macho connotation, but I also acknowledge yours and Annebeth's connotations. Well in the end it's just a word I don't usually use and don't like people calling me that either.

On that tumblr naked thing, maybe because I'm really not into that, I either don't notice it or don't come across it. Maybe the tumblrs I follow don't post those kinds of things, but if I would notice/come across it, it would be gross and not inspirational at all!

And I agree, I don't usually talk about disasters on my blog, they happen everyday and most we don't even hear in the news. Yes it was sad what happened, I am sorry for those families, but really bad things are happening everywhere all the time.

Closet Fashionista said...

Love this outfit!!
and I totally agree with all of your points! Especially the Norway one. Whenever there is a natural disaster or something huge happens everyone goes insane. But when something that has been happening for a long time is still going on, no one comments... :/ (I have been guilty of this on a few occasions but that's just what happens I guess, haha, its not that we don't think about the other tragedy its that some feel closer to use)
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So Yeah So said...

When it comes to tragedies, I pretty much feel that unless I can devote a whole post to how I feel, it seems really silly to just throw out a little sentence or two about how something is horrible. Of course it is, you know? So I'm totally feeling you there.

I don't hang out on Tumblr much, as I'm still trying to figure out what direction I want to go with mine, but I am on Pinterest, and I'm really tired of all the bordering on pro ana thinspiration that people pin. Drives me insane.

Annebeth said...

It's the same for us you know, Belgium has this huge guilt problem for exploiting congo back in colonial times, and belgians are brought up almost forced to feel really guilty about something we didn't have a lot to do with in the first place (almost like americans and slavery I guess). This can result in two reactions: awareness and compassion, or an anti-reaction where you feel like meddling with African affairs only leads to more trouble (as proved in several cases) so you just kind of ignore the whole deal. I'm not the biggest fan of neo-colonialism as in meddling with other country's affairs, unless the country asks for help of course. But in the end I feel like problems are solved in a more long term way if you let a country solve it on its own, not letting them get dependent on (and basically become an agent of) the big powers. I don't know enough of the famine going on right now, but if the causes can be contributed to the climate change all the developed countries are responsible for, THEN I do feel guilty and then I do feel like we should offer more attention. That IS something we are all responsible for.

And maybe Norway hits home for me more because of how close it is, how horribly clear I can imagine the course of events, how traumatized the involved must be for having stood face to face with someone who almost feels like evil personified. Terrifying.

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

I admit I don't know the causes. I'd be surprised if Climate Change didn't have something to do with it, but these things are difficult to prove anyway. I'm with you on the more "hands off" approach--we've done enough. I have a friend who works in aid and she drives me nuts with her almost benevolent colonial "I'm saving lives" attitude. Grrr.

Annebeth said...

haha so you're basically anti anything? :D stop bitchin babe! :D

Rebeccak said...

Oh I love your grinch-ish-ness. The babe thing gets me too. I haven't heard it used much recently - but I remember a friend's girlfriend using it constantly and it just made me think of the movie about the pig.

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

@Annebeth: I did say I was the grinch! Nah, I'm pro-information, pro-thinking, and pro-drawing connections. And pro-revolution, sometimes. ; D

Annebeth said...

also, I love that movie babe! c'mon, how can you hate it? Especially when that mom/sheep dies and babe gets accused, and when he can finally compete in the sheepherding contest!! :D

Monique said...

Emily, what has happened in Norway is so tragic. My husband and I have been talking about this. I was listening to an interview from some of the children who survived such a traumatic and devastating experience. I've heard very little about the famine. Of course I have to dig for this as the news media here is extremely bias and limited. Emily I'm so glad you pay attention to what's going on. This type of post is similar to conversations my husband and I have. Really glad you are bringing these issues to light.

chantilly said...

i agree- i don't think it's much of a "rant" at all. these are all very intelligent talking points.

i think about the sexism stuff all the time. something as harmless as calling someone a "babe", most people think nothing of. but as long as people are in the habit of ONLY praising a female's physical attributes, she and the world is apt to associate that with her value and worth as a person.

the first thing we often tell little girls is how "pretty" they are. it starts young.

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

@Monique: the famine was on the front page of the Guardian (online, anyway) last week, so I can't take too much credit. I do forget that a lot of other papers don't cover things like this.

@Chantilly: that is very true, and something I was hoping to hint at a little bit. It is the valuation of physical appearance first... and the possibility that the valuation stops there.

Lesley said...

i just love that yellow bow in the back!

i just couldn't believe people were more concerned about a drugged out pop star than 91 innocent people victim to a terrorist...

Julia Topaz, La Belle Oiselle said...

See also: earthquake in Japan.

CessOviedo said...

So with you with number 2! Is that even necessary, c'mon! on a happier note, I love your dress! The back is lovely!

Cess O. <3 The Outfit Diaries

Monique said...

Just checked out some articles about it. Will continue to keep it on my radar. Really disturbing that 3,500 people flee Somalia per day. Such a devastating time. Emily your random rants are quite thoughtful.

Nicole, Coco Maria said...

So, I find the sentence "Why do we only feel compelled to comment upon things that happen to people who remind us of ourselves" extremely poignant. The thing is, though, that I along with probably most people just don't know what's going on in the world. I don't take the time to look past the newspaper or homepage of the new york times to see what's going on. When a tragedy like Norway happens, it's visible, but ongoing tragedies, like famine in Somalia get no attention. I do think this goes back to your statement though about "people like us," and I think that's a big problem in the media. In regards to tumblr, I generally just unfollow people who post tons of naked, skinny women photos. Out of sight out of mind I guess. And babe bothers the heck out of me as well. I would much rather be called a witty, awkward friend than something with a sexual connotation!

Anyway, on a less ranty note, I love your dress! That yellow bow in the back is such a nice touch.

sojourned in style said...

liking the hints of sunny yellow under the dress. you are the most insightful when it comes to blogging issues, I love your sensical rants. I completely agree with every one of your statements. Since the first day girls started calling eachother babe and hun and whatnot I always twisted my face to this "I'm not your babe." "we only feel compelled to comment upon things that happen to people who remind us of ourselves"- so so true that when its one of "us" are we baffled. i guess that's just an indicator of how distanced the two opposite spectrums are in relation to the other.

CAITLIN said...

a) i always have an immense aversion to the word "babe," though i must admit i haven't noticed blogger overuse of the term. whenever it's used it feels like it is an attempt to draw male attention, even if it is used by a fellow gal. if a man ever called me babe he'd probably get a steely glare and a dismissal.

b) amen to the naked chicks. over it. especially since i do pretty much all of my blog-reading at work and i am sick of the near-heart attack i have when boobs pop up on the screen...

c) the fact is, it IS unbelievably horrible what happened in norway. it's also unbelievably horrible that there is famine and child abuse and human trafficking and AIDS (the list goes on and on...). there is so much wrong with the world right now that it's almost impossible to focus all of our energy on one crisis or another. i think one of the reasons people are so distressed about norway is definitely because it is a "that could happen to me" scenario. if this sort of thing happened in the middle east there would probably be less coverage because that sort of thing happens all the time there (which doesn't make it any less tragic, just less shocking). it does not happen all the time in norway. and people begin to think, if this can happen in norway, it can happen where i am... i could be next. same with japan. and fucking nuclear power plants. but that's a different issue. anyway, the point is: there are so many ways in which world events can devastate us. i think sometimes events like these can be more devastating because they are human-caused, and just make me sad for humanity in general (although one could definitely argue that famine is an indirect effect of human activity *cough*climate change). i don't know, i am a rambler, that's for sure.

ana said...

beautiful dress ;)

jess said...

First, I love your dress the hint of yellow is perfect.
I'm not a big fan of the word babe but, I can see how it is used in a girl-power way.
There aren't many naked girls on my tumblrs. But there is a lack of diversity when they do come up.

Emily, Resplendent Tranquility said...

Thank you for the rant on the word "babe." And shall we throw "baby" in there as well? That gets under my skin, too.

No more waifs. Please. no. more. waifs. I get more irritated than inspired by those photos.

"Why do we only feel compelled to comment upon things that happen to people who remind us of ourselves?" Because that's what the media has jammed down our throats? Because the masses are asses? Not to belittle what happened in Norway in the slightest, but I watch the news and think "okay... and what's happening elsewhere in the world?" It can be so infuriating. And don't get me started on celebrity scandals or, gasp, deaths. Really? There's nothing worthwhile that you could report on for days on end? Give me a break. I only heard about the recent postal strike in Canada via Etsy. Can you believe that? I know that it's not on the same level as, say, the Somalian famine, but it's international news, but silly me for thinking it might be important to some people.

Emily, you are aware and informed - that hardly qualifies you as a grinch!

P.S. These photos are really lovely. I remember seeing this dress in a previous post or two, but never that delightful yellow tie at the back!

Maria Ramona said...

i think it's very importnant to be aware of the atrocities your own goverment is responsible for over anything else, for this kind of thing is something we can try to do something about ( not to mention we are partially responsible by living/voting here). some American examples: the Palestinian genocide, the war on Afganistan and Iraq, the lack of security with our own nuclear reactors, to name just a few. instead of going out and looking for other causes, (Tibet, Darfur, etc.) start in your own backyard and take a good hard look about the truth regarding your own goverment's actions.

Amber Blue Bird said...

I dont think I have ever used the term "babe" it just sounds gross. I dont tend to post current events on my blog but I have noticed that if something is on the forefront in the media then it tends to be blogged about asap while the lesser known events are overlooked. That is also a problem with media itself though.

Margaret said...

I think what's causing all the hype about the Norwegian massacre is because Norway hasn't had any "problems" since WWII. It's been known as one of the safest places in the world. So when some psycho suddenly appears, it's certain to get attention.

I have never used the word "babe." No offense, but I just feel ridiculous saying it!

Kerri @ OldLadyChic said...

I love rants and I love this dress. I hate when couples call each other babe. "hey babe, pass me that chicken wing" or "Call your mother, babe" I have a cousin who is guilty of this.

Maria Ramona said...

...and thank you for a thought-provoking post, by the way. I am so glad i found your blog. :)

Diana said...

well i think you're a babe ;) jk!!! i think you look so elegant and gorgeous in these pictures and i do love your rants :) (and this dress). and this over stimulation of naked sickly looking chicks is tiring me out too. people need to get that none of these girl are inspiration -- they're just a depressing image of our society's twisted perception of beauty and its enough to make even the skinniest girl feel like a cow (which is ridiculous). as for the horrible situations people are living through, i honestly wish i was more informed about it, and i appreciate when intelligent people bring up thought provoking questions like this. i think it is what makes me come back to your blog again and again. that and your lovely style of course! xo

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Terri said...

Guilty as charged on #3, but the first two do indeed strike me as very strange. I had just been thinking earlier today that I needed to visit Tumblr more...but now I don't think so. Now, I'm going to read all these delicious comments and comment again.

Terri said...

Second comment after skimming the comments. I had been aware of Somalia. What is the answer to the problem there? Previous efforts on the part of the west often compound the problems, which isn't to dismiss it, but to know enough to think about it in a complex way.

Currently the American media is dominated by the debate over our national deficit. If the US defaults, there are serious consequences for peoples everywhere.

A Certain Vintage said...

loving some of the reactions to this post, personally I'm in hearty agreement with it all and loved the rant (and your peekaboo yellow dress very very much).
Looking beautiful...babe
x

Vanessa, Take only Memories said...

First of all: That's a beautiful dress! I love the bow in the back!
Now: I don't think that we are supposed to be "sweet natured". I think it is your blog and therefore you can rant on it all you want! In fact, I like seeing more "real" sides of style bloggers. I don't buy it that they are all that sweet ;)
I haven't read the term babe that much and it doesn't really bother me but I agree with you on the naked ladies. What's up with that?
About Norway, well, I guess it's normal to get more upset about tragedy when it reminds us of ourself. What happened in Norway could happen to any of us but a famine is less likely. That, of course, doesn't make it right not to comment on Somalia.
I was more surprised on the amount of bloggers commenting on Amy Winehouses death!

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

Hmm, I've lost track of who said what, but a couple of points:

1. While Norway is shocking, it's not as though these things never happen. The Oklahoma bombings, Columbine, and that guy in Montreal who shot a bunch of woman students spring to mind.

2. I brought up the Somali famine specifically because it started last week (like the Norway thing). I myself am not as aware of news as I should be, but I saw, under the Norway headlines "Somalia slips into famine."

Thanks for all your input babes!

Rachel said...

I'm not a big fan of the word babe, but I do think it depends how you use it- like the way Annebeth uses it seems more ok to me because she's not using it in a masculine, leering kinda way, but just celebrating her friends' awesomeness. I guess it depends, it doesn't really enter my vocab on a daily basis. And the Norway thing, well I guess it has been and will always be the way it is. We get 5 minutes of starving orphans in Africa and then it's on to the next thing, and compassion fatigue and all of that. And we're so used to third world problems whereas Norway being a developed country with hardly anything major happening there..

Oh yeah, love the yellow peeking through the dress and the bow at the back :) xx

Galine said...

"Maybe it's my excessive Canadian guilt, but I look on the Somalia thing not so much as a "I feel the pain of hungry Africans" thing, but more "I'm so ashamed to be part of the problem that makes the world so unequal and fucked up" point of view"

I agree! This morning I was reading an article about 2 Canadians who have been missing for a year & have now been pronounced dead/murdered. The absolutely disturbing thing? A reward of $60,000 for anyone that has information that could help in the case!!! Huh? What??! How is it that we state "Oh, we don't have money..." where there seems to be all this cash just sitting around for rewards, when it should be used to oh, I don't know, solve the homeless problem, hunger, famine, OTHER COUNTRIES WHO NEED IT!! *Sigh*

It is pretty frustrating.

Ashley said...

Ok, you look hot!!!!! Love the dress...and I will be careful not to call you a babe ;)

Yes, I think people tend to complain about what the hot topic is, like they suddenly care. And maybe they do care, but I find it annoying that we focus on one event (great job media) while not mentioning much trouble in other countries. We're always looking for what is "news" and then we move on to the next tragedy, and forget about the one prior.

Makes you think about where our priorities are as a human race.

Marisa Noelle said...

I love a good rant and what you've said is completely true. First of all, "babe" - not a huge fan of the word. It was totally overused in the 90s by every guy who was ogling over whatever tall bosomy bimbo was considered hot at the moment. I would have been considered the anti-babe (my 5'2 shy and nerdy, book-wormish self). So this is what this word reminds me of.

It too disgusts me to see all the naked minus zero size model photos that people post all over blogs. This is neither real nor inspiring. It's gross. It's sad that this is what much of society deems as beautiful these days.

Lastly, on your point about the Norway vs. Somalia thing: This is why I despise the media so much. (But that could be a whole different rant.) Earlier this year when the school I work at was raising money for the devastation in Haiti, a student came up to my desk and said, "why should we help those people out..what have they done for us"...I was stunned & appalled as this was the attitude of many students. Later on that year when the school raised money for those that were effected by the tornados that devastated several states here in the US, everyone jumped right on board. This was awesome but both events were equally as horrible. Where was the same compassion for those suffering in Haiti? This again goes along with the point you made about people being more compelled to sympathize with those that are like themselves.

Now that I've typed a book (sorry), on a lighter note: Your dress is really Wow - gorgeous! Quite an amazing eBay find. Have a good week!! x Marisa

Jennyboo said...

I look forward to your rants because I wholeheartedly agree with all of them! If I have to see one more Bridgette Bardot reference/blogger dedication....


Moving on the point #3: Yes, I 100% agree with you. What happened in Norway is terrible and definitely speaks to the growing right wing sentiment throughout Europe and the United States. However, why aren't other community issues highlighted in the media? Need I say that most communities who are forgotten are people of color? This is actually something I am quite passionate about since most of my research focuses on the intersections between race, gender, class, and sexuality. I stray from mainstream media because of this.

Virginie's Cinema said...

I love the conversation this post sparked!

I find the media coverage of news is so so bad, ideologically oriented and manipulative these days. Comparable to the Norway situation is the passing of my Whinehouse. Everybody was "devastated" and "shocked" with the news and making her a saint when she had a serious diseased and all signs were pointing in that direction is it didn't get under control...

I love Brigitte Bardot but I don't care for the "babe" label at all... although iI'm sure the bloggers don't mean it as a negative.

I'm way annoyed by over sexualization in general so nakkid girls on bloggies... not such much. I came upon a blog somebody had recommended to me yesterday and it was a little trashy with crotch shots of herself... I believe in pushing the envelop but I hate over sexualisation, weither it be a blogger or Beyoncé shaking her booty onstage in underpants... It's just tacky and easy.

Virginie ♥

dusanabotswana said...

This was actually a really great rant, short and sweet! I agree with the "babes" part, although I guess I am a bit hypocritical because when I do post pictures I usually say how cute/pretty/adorable they. So, actually thanks for the reminder that I should talk about why they are my great friends- obv their personalities, not their looks! Overly skinny girls in general seriously gross me out. When they look so obviously healthy I just cannot comprehend why anyone would reblog it. Makes me glad to not have tumblr. You last comment is the reason I actually stopped watching the news, an unbalanced focus on "people who remind us of ourseleves." & you do look a bit gloomy in your pics but I like it, you look real!

dusanabotswana said...

I should also add that I would barf if my guy every called me "babe" or even "baby" but maybe it's because it reminds me of total creeps I've had the misfortune of meeting & surely some guys don't say that to their sig o's to be rude/sound like a frat boy who just wants to get some.

Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeys said...

Ha. My boyfriend does often call me baby, and also cutie. But I think that's all just context. For me there's a big difference between "babe" and "baby!" Hehe

Stef / Diversions said...

I usually call my co-workers and friends "guys" and people who offend me "mate" but I can see where you're coming from although suggestible as I am I could be tempted with "babe"ing everyone although somehow I've noticed myself about to call people "doll" more and more.
I am pretty unisex about my diminutives as well as my insults :D

As for Norway you hit the nail on the head of course. Mind you I was equally upset when that was pushed off the news for nonstop coverage of Amy Winehouse, with reports of her drug related death way before an autopsy was done. When did reporters start thinking their opinion and guesswork will substitute for facts? And why is one singer more important than everything else that's happening in the world? Ugh. It just never ends.